Self-pity is something I think we all turn to in times of great stress and strife (or what feels like strife anyways). The past few weeks I've been scrounging up the money to be able to afford food and gas, and the other day I just completely had a meltdown and called my mom bawling my eyes out. Which only made things worse because well, "you should have known better than to spend your money on designer handbags." Anyone else feel me on this one?
Needless to say, ever since moving out of my house I'm really starting to grasp the importance of saving (read: when my paychecks roll in don't expect me to be going on any shopping sprees.) This summer is now officially dedicated to paying off my credit card bill, paying my utilities, and saving for books/winter. Ugh. Real life.
But the worst part of all this new stuff is that while it may be real life, it's a completely modified version of what it's really like to be an adult. My mom gave me $15 after I called her completely panic stricken the other day (*bows head in shame*), but it's not always going to be like that. My parents aren't always going to pay my rent. And I'm telling ya, that's going to flat out suck.
This post isn't about money woes though. It's about taking responsibility and learning how to fix your problems, rather than spending unreal amounts of time pitying yourself for not having enough money to buy the super adorable Kate Spade handbag you've been lusting over all summer. I have problems, I know.
If there's anything I've learned since I've gotten older it's that life throws all kinds of curveballs your way. Good curveballs, bad curveballs, downright awful curveballs. And it's really, extraordinarily hard to learn to roll with the punches while maintaining a positive attitude. When things go wrong in my life, I tend to bow out gracefully rather than face them head on. Put them off to the last minute or choose to ignore them to the best of my ability. But that's not what heroines do.
Heroines face the problem head on and focus on the task at hand. Heroines don't break down just because one tiny thing has gone wrong (especially when that tiny thing, that seems so big in your life, is actually quite small when you really consider things). Heroines admit to their mistakes and learn from them. Heroines are constantly bettering themselves and for heroines, being the victim in your own life story is just not. an. option. And that's how it should be. So this week, and from here on out, remind yourself that you don't get to be a victim-- not of your own accord, anyways. The strength required to be your own heroine is in all of us, you just have to find it.